I Can't

I was in the midst of a discussion a few weeks ago, that I soon realized was going no where. So, finally I said, "Argue for your limitations and they're yours."

"What does that mean?" she asked.

sigh

How to explain that? Lawyers argue for their clients to convince someone of that version of the truth. By the very nature that they refer to them as 'my client' indicates ownership. Therefore, argue for your limitations and they become yours too. What does "argue for them" mean? It means you defend them. You put up evidence as to prove their existstence.

Argue for your limitations and their yours.

How to break this cycle though, that is the question.

The answer is simple, but not easy. Start with removing certain words from your vocabulary. This will enable you to clearly identify your negative thoughts and assist you in reprogramming yourself. Remove "I can't" and "should" from your speech. These are two of the most insidious negative weeds in the english language!!

"I can't" is short for "I continue accessing negative thinking". Instead of using "I can't" try searching for what you CAN do. For example "Judy, can you volunteer for a booth at the school fair?" "I can do a booth for two hours." "The shifts are four hours, Judy." "Well, then I can bake cookies and help set up if you need that."

Changing your mind frame from 'I can't' to "I can" releases the energy blockages that "I can't" sets up. When you say "I can't" every cell of your body believes you. Try it. Hook your thumbs and index fingers together making a link. Say "I can't" a few times to yourself and pull your fingers apart. Now, try it again, this time saying "I can". You can also do this with a friend. Put your arm straight out and hold it there. Thinking to yourself "I can't" a few times and have your friend push your arm down. Now, try it again, thinking "I can." Do you notice the difference in the strength of your own muscles? Our words and thoughts debilitate or empower us...its our choice.

"I should" is the precurser to "I can't". Should is the programming code instilled by our parents and society to get us to do things we wouldn't necessarily choose to do. This leads to resentment/guilt and resentment/guilt leads to dis-ease and that spells illness. Replace "I should" with "I need" or "I want". Even something as simple as "I need to go to the grocery store" instead of "I should go to the grocery store" is far more empowering.

If you've already been diagnosed with an illness, changing your mind frame is even more critical. Do not say "I can't do this or that, because I have this diagnosis." That's a double whammy! Instead, try something like "I experience symptoms of fibromyalgia, so I can do that if I have a chair and can take breaks."

Reframe your brain and you can reset your life to Optimum!!

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